Weak or Strong?

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Leadership lessons abound nowadays. Ranging from TED talks, podcasts, Twitter quips or Instagram motivational sayings – everyone seems to have something to say. Often the world-views collide and confuse. Let me give you an example.

I grew up with a model of leadership where strength was celebrated and weakness was hidden. A leader was supposed to inspire and stir up up admiration through their assured self-confidence. People were meant to look up to them and ‘have something of what they had’.  That inevitably created a huge pressure to live an impossible life, satisfy unreasonable expectations and often birthed a two-sided personality. There was the public leader and the private one, and the chasm between the two was often ever widening.

Nowadays, we moved on from that. Or maybe, we just overreacted. Disclosure is now pretty standard. Weakness is celebrated and uncomfortable vulnerability is worn like a badge of honour. It almost feels like you have to let your ‘demons’ be seen in order to gain credibility. While the transparency (truth) is always a better option – at what point does the celebration of weakness become another side of the same coin – a dangerous exercise in selfishness and attention seeking?

A tension – I love that word, and much prefer it to ‘balance’ – is needed. The check should always be on our real motive? Is this about building and encouraging others – or simply gaining a platform and stealing the spotlight? For a Christian leader – this is even more pronounced. I truly think that the apostle Paul ‘nails’ this one. He is transparent

He is transparent about his past and honest about his struggle with the thorn in the flesh:

Galatians 1:13
“For you have heard of my former life in Judaism, how I persecuted the church of God violently and tried to destroy it.”

2 Corinthians 12:7-8: So to keep me from becoming proud, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger from Satan to torment me and keep me from becoming proud. Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away.

But Paul is not attracting attention to his weakness (past or present) but directs people’s attention towards a sufficient Christ:

2 Corinthians 5:17:  Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has passed away, and see, the new has[a] come!

2 Corinthians 12:9: “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”

A good leader will not hide his limp, nor will they swagger – they won’t pretend nor attract attention to themselves. They will be appropriately honest and vulnerable, yet always lifting up Christ as our encouragement and example:

Hebrews 3:1a: “Therefore, holy brothers and sisters, who share in a heavenly calling, consider Jesus…”

Everyday Easter

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Just another Monday. It’s so tempting to ‘move on’ from Lent and Holy Week. But that to me would be religion. A meaningless habit aimed to impress others and earn ‘brownie points’ with God.

Yet I chose to see it as a spiritual chance to reboot and refresh my relationship with God. What I have discovered and rediscovered during this season ought to affect the way I live in the mundane environments from now on.

Seeing Jesus passionate resolve to obey the will of the Father, causes me to subscribe to the same longing for an uncompromising obedience.

His ‘I couldn’t care less about popularity’ makes me want to please God vs. man more than ever. Remember, Jesus never won a popularity contest and neither should we expect to win one….

I love the fact that suffering hallmarks the entire salvation story. It isn’t edited out. This confirms that God is IN the midst of our stark and dark realities of a fallen world.

He extends grace to the undeserving. To the sinner. To the condemned and despised thief. That’s me. And that’s such good news.

He despises the self-righteous. Those who see themselves above the need for grace. Those who make excuses and justify sin. Those who spend more time judging others. And that’s me too, at times.

The resurrection proclaims a new start, a myriad of supernatural possibilities: miracles, transformed lives, an otherworldly Kingdom breaking out in people’s lives and circumstances. And to that, I’m addicted!


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It’s Sunday. If there has ever been a comeback, this is it. When all the dreams seemed shattered and all the hopes dashed – it happened. Not even the most optimistic of followers expected it. And many didn’t believe it. It was THAT good!

The unlikely heroes are in fact the usual suspects. Someone like Mary, the poster girl for Jesus’s grace and power. And Peter, who didn’t take heed of Jesus’s warning and despite his natural boldness, betrays Jesus repeatedly. They are the ones to discover the greatest surprise of all times… so like Jesus.

This truth is an experience. A personal one. A significant one. One that Christ followers have built their lives ever since. It’s awesome because it proves that what He said was true, and therefore He can be trusted with everything else! It’s awesome because it proves that He defeated, evil, sin and death on the Cross! It’s awesome because transformation and victory are, therefore, possible for us too!

Let Easter come into your life too, for the first time maybe or for the umpteenth time afresh this year. Let His unflinching resolve towards the Cross be your talisman of love. Let His grace be your whisper of love as you look on the cross. Let His victory fuel your hopes and dreams. Let the empty tomb be the assurance that because He lives you too can face tomorrow. Christ is Risen!

Matthew 28:1-8 | Mark 16:1-9 | Luke 24:1-8 | John 20:1


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It’s Saturday. It’s very quiet. The quietness of broken dreams. The quietness of grief and loss. The quietness in which you can only hear the sighs and see the tears. It’s all gone wrong.

You know that maddening quietness that occurs after a sudden diagnosis, after a loss or breakup – as you’re almost too confused and shocked to even utter anything.
When it’s quiet it’s so much easier to be assaulted by so many questions. I guess that’s why we fill our lives with noise, in the hope that the questions will go away. But they don’t….

How could they do this to Him? Why didn’t He do something to stop His enemies? How does this all tie in with His words? Have I believed a lie? Will I be next?

Today is a hard day. Because all they have is broken dreams. But all is about to change because our human full stop becomes the divine comma that leads to the next step in HIStory.

Take comfort, dear friends, you’re not alone in how you feel. You might feel weak but it’s this kind of weakness that opens the door for God’s mighty power.

Luke 23:56


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It’s Friday. This is the day with the paradoxical name. Good Friday. But at first glance, it was anything but good. Jesus is betrayed and arrested, tortured, humiliated, betrayed again, wrongly accused and crucified.

Everything screams ‘injustice!’. The supporters who seemed to vanish. The blind Jewish religious elite who seemed determined to eradicate the heresy of His teaching. The Romans who could not wait to show some muscle in dealing with alleged nationalist insurgents.Funny how evil aligns all those diametrically opposed forces. These people could not agree for five minutes if out in a room together yet they all seem to be on the same side on that day.

Yet go beyond the horror of the gruesome spectacle. This isn’t an accident. He isn’t a victim. This was the most daring and selfless act of sacrifice humanity has ever seen. Jesus was dying to pay for our sins. All of us. All of them. Once and for all. The Jewish people would understand this as they brought the sacrifice to the temple. Yet Jesus became the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world.

He did intentionally. He did it voluntarily. He did it Himself. Even on the cross you see and hear the clues of who He really is: loving, forgiving, saving, surrendering to the Father.

The ultimate suffering is betrayed by his anguished cry, ‘my God, my God, why have you forsaken me?’. That’s what was worse than thorns and nails and whips. The separation from God. Because of sin. Because of me. And you. Us all.

Look at the cross afresh and ask yourself today. Who is He to me? Teacher? Wizard? Prophet? Socialist revolutionary? Jedi master? Lamb of God? King? The shortest sentence, it’s the most stunning. ‘tetelestai’. It is finished! Not a cry of relief but one of victory. And that my friend, can be our password into His kingdom. And that’s why this ugly, evil, dark Friday is known as Good Friday!

Matthew 26: 36-75; 37 | Mark 14:53-72; 15 | Luke 22:39-72; 23 | John 15; 16; 18; 19


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It’s Thursday. What would you do in the last day before your execution? Do something selfish? Be with those whom you love? Hide away?

If yesterday seemed like a slow day, today it really picks up pace. Jesus seems to focus on spending with the disciples, not for His encouragement but for their edification.

He distills the essentials. His sacrificial death and the link to salvation (Last Supper). The importance of a divine relationship (abide). The upside down nature of Kingdom servant hood (foot washing). He demonstrates it practically, not just in words, with a real life reminder. Just so they will not be ignorant or forget.
It makes me wonder how many of the essentials get lost in unimportant details?

We don’t want a broken Saviour because it makes Him look weak, and oh, how we despise weakness… We prefer a contract signed sealed and delivered, without any further interference, rather than abiding… We love to see the towel and the basin used, just not by us but for us…

Then Jesus retreats. His only seemingly ‘me’ time is in prayerful struggle. And how much this does not resemble our prayer. This is maybe where the battle of Calvary was half won. This is maybe where the resolution is sealed and the emotions are strengthened. This is the unedited Jesus. The One I can relate to every time I intercede for those not yet answered prayers. Yes, He understands…

Matthew 26:17-25 | Mark 14:12-31 | Luke 22:7-38 | John 13 & 14


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It’s Wednesday. After the avalanche of emotions and conflicts, this feels like a quiet day. After resting in Bethany, Jesus comes back into Jerusalem in the Temple complex, continuing to teach. To the naive onlooker it seems like a victory. But little do they know…

The plot is in full flow and the dice has been rolled. His demise at the hand of the religious elite is imminent. This truly is the calm before the storm. Church history often referred to this day as Spy Wednesday, and it’s not hard to guess that Judas takes centre stage.

The man who has witnessed Jesus’ power and heard Jesus’ incredible teaching finds himself ‘turned’ to betray him. It was mostly about money but not just about money. The culmination of his exasperation with Jesus was the wasteful anointing by Mary. That was the tipping point.

The son of David, experiences the betrayal of one of his close followers, just like David himself. At some point something happened to Judas. A small spiritual gateway that allowed the evil one to come and whisper and stir-up his frustrations with the way of the Master.

There’s a Judas lurking in every one of us. We have our own agendas. We see a kingdom with a small ‘k’ that somehow seems more appealing than His Kingdom. We want pleasure, power and possessions and despise servanthood, self-sacrifice and surrender.

When it comes to our affection for the Saviour and our allegiance for the King, there is no such thing as a ‘small’ compromise. This is the time to examine ourselves, to be ruthless and close the door.

Watch out for frustrations, unmet expectations, puzzling outcomes, challenging words and anything else that might cause you to steer away from the King’s way. May the Judas inside of us come to light in repentance and meet the gracious Saving King!

Matthew 26:1-5, 14-16 | Mark 14:1-2, 10-11 | Luke 22:1-6


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It’s Tuesday. If there were any PR people amongst the disciples, on that Tuesday they must have had a nightmare day. This was like a public war of words, betraying Jesus’ deep disappointment with the self-righteous.

They tried to trap Him with both political and religious questions but with no avail. He knew more than they thought He knew and His time just wasn’t finished. How often do we play this game too…We get so engrossed in relatively insignificant trivia, while ignoring the blatant spiritual issues that mar our lives.

It’s frustrating to see such an opportunity – yet those who saw themselves ‘in’ were either too deluded or arrogant to see themselves in need of grace.

Like a good prophet, He paints the picture of the future, offering yet another chance of repentance. He does it with creativity and simplicity, through the power of the story. But so many just don’t want to know… The ‘here and now’ of power is a strong spiritual narcotic that deters us from understanding the future.

This is the day that Judas does His dirty deal. It might have been about money but I suspect that the shattered expectations of worldly success fueled most of the motivation for ‘selling Jesus out’. You make a customised Jesus and when it does not ‘deliver’ – you betray Him. That story gets repeated again and again.
Matthew 21-25 | Mark 11-13 | Luke 20-21


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It’s Monday. The crescendo towards the Cross is in full flow. Jesus left behind the adulation of Palm Sunday and was heading for the most trying few days in Jerusalem.

There is a new picture of Jesus emerging. He is anything but a ‘meek and mild pale Galilean’.

He weeps over the current rejection of His message and the future destruction of Jerusalem. He curses the fig tree who was barren and that is the prophetic picture of the fruitless Israel who was meant to be a refreshing for the other nations.

As He steps into the temple, He is enraged by both the sinfulness of transforming a haven of spirituality into a full-blown shopping mall and the injustice of exploiting people in the name of God. Man turning a place of an upward focus of comfort, reflection and inspiration into a place of greed, deceit and noise.

Many would be uncomfortable with this image. It would not look good on a poster. It offends our sensibilities and shatters our idolatrous preconceived ideas about His identity.

Yet that’s the real Jesus. Emotional. Ruthless. Passionate. Don’t edit Him. Don’t customise your own personalised version of the comfortable Jesus you like. Have a spiritual health check. Has sin made itself at home in your life masquerading as religion? Let his broken heart become your broken heart. For those distracted and perhaps deceived. And the oppressed…

Matthew 21:12-13, 18-19 | Mark 11:15-19 | Luke 19:45-48 | John 12:12-19


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As the end of another year approaches – it provides me with a new opportunity for reflection and examination. This is a grace infused exercise meant to help me grow, as a disciple and as a leader. It’s not a guilt trip or a legalistic ‘to do’ list to breed shame or pride.

Here is a list that I designed for myself – and some of the questions/issues you might fond helpful too:

What can I celebrate?

What do I need to bring closure to?

What keeps tripping me up?

  • emotional
  • relational
  • intellectual
  • physical
  • spiritual

Who do I want to become?

Who do I want to influence?

What is my plan?

  • what disciplines do I need to adopt?
  • how can I master my diary?
  • who/what should I be reading & listening to?
  • who do I need to talk to?
  • how does my accountability look like?

Pauls’ leadership encouragement to Timothy is a helpful reminder here:

2 Timothy 2:3-6 (NLT): 3 Endure suffering along with me, as a good soldier of Christ Jesus. 4 Soldiers don’t get tied up in the affairs of civilian life, for then they cannot please the officer who enlisted them. 5 And athletes cannot win the prize unless they follow the rules. 6 And hardworking farmers should be the first to enjoy the fruit of their labor.