Only words, they say… Yet these ordered collection of letters printed or uttered can build or break a life. Most people I know have been shaped by words, either negatively or positively.
And one of the most heart-breaking truths about words is that we can never, really, take them back. We can apologize for wrong tone or wrong timing or make excuses – yet they are un-erasable.
But we can use the words for good as well!
Read Ephesians 4:29 (HCSB)
‘No foul language is to come from your mouth, but only what is good for building up someone in need, so that it gives grace to those who hear.’
• Say what people need
• Say what will build people up
• Say what is good for them
Watch your heart today and every day, that’s the source of your words. Watch your mouth, that’s the vehicle for your words and realise that in your own strength you cannot do it.
Ask for help, the Holy Spirit is the Counsellor who supplies much needed help for both self-control and to influence.
Here is one of my favourite stories.
Author Mary Ann Bird shared this very personal story in The Whisper Test. She wrote, “I grew up knowing I was different, and I hated it. I was born with a cleft palate, and when I started school, my classmates made it clear to me how I looked to others: a little girl with a misshapen lip, crooked nose, lopsided teeth, and garbled speech.”
“When classmates asked, ‘What happened to your lip? I’d tell them I’d fallen and cut it on a piece of glass. Somehow it seemed more acceptable to have suffered an accident than to have been born different. I was convinced that no one outside my family could love me.”
“There was, however, a teacher in the second grade that we all adored—Mrs. Leonard [was her] name. She was short, round, happy—a sparkling lady.” Annually we had a hearing test . . .Mrs. Leonard gave the test to everyone in the class, and finally it was my turn. I knew from past years that as we stood against the door and covered one ear, the teacher sitting at her desk would whisper something, and we would have to repeat it back—things like “The sky is blue” or “Do you have new shoes?”
I waited there for those words that God must have put into her mouth. [They were] seven words that changed my life. Mrs. Leonard said in her whisper, “I wish you were my little girl”