Being Father’s Day in the UK tomorow I have come across these quoutes by celebrities regarding their fathers. They are very different but equally insightful.

Best Life Magazine and Reader’s Digest asked some well-known people “What did you learn from your father?” Here are some of the answers.

Denzel Washington: [He was a] gentleman. A real gentle man. A devout Christian. A spirit-filled man, hardworking, low-key, consistent. And like myself nowadays, he was working all day. He probably put in 18, 20 hours a day.

Tom Hanks: How not to do things. My dad was a good guy, but he didn’t communicate well. And that made me really try to concentrate on communicating, to really express how I’m feeling.

Robert Duvall: He tried to teach me to be a gentleman. He was one; he was a good example.

John Leguizamo: Determination. He had crazy obstacles, but he never gave up–no matter how hard life got.

Mickey Rourke: I met him only once. We got along great in that one meeting. I wish I would have known him a lot longer.

Elvis Costello: Curiosity and the ability to listen. And he gave me a great record collection.

Patrick Swayze: My dad taught me the true man’s way of life: Be a peaceful warrior, with harm to none.


This is a brilliant post by Dr. Thom Rainer. Well worth pondering for church leaders – both young as well as seasoned ones.

My wife and I were in a conversation recently about our years together. We will celebrate 33 years of marriage this year, and we dated for almost six years. The simple math was a surprise. We have been dating or married for nearly four decades!

It was a good conversation. But I had my moments of regret. Times that I was too busy for my family. My tendency to want to win an argument with my wife rather than resolve the problem. Failure to slow down and enjoy life.

Mistakes in Ministry

I then reflected on my years when I served as senior pastor of four churches. I have often said that I wanted to write a book entitled Mistakes I Made in Ministry. Then I realized it would have to be a multivolume series!

There are no “do overs” in life and ministry. But there are always opportunities to learn, correct, and improve. So I decided to share with you seven of the key mistakes I made as a senior pastor. Obviously, the list is not exhaustive. Seven just seemed to be a good, biblical number.

Seven for Starters

As I just began thinking about the mistakes I made as a pastor, I realized how gracious most church members were to me. And I realized how my family’s love for me is a total gift of grace. Here are the seven, but they are really just the beginning of many more.

1. I would spend more time in the Word and in prayer. I would follow the biblical pattern of the church leaders in Acts 6:4: “But we will devote ourselves to prayer and to the preaching ministry” (HCSB).

2.  I would give my family more time. No one remembers the church committee meetings I missed. My family still remembers those times I was too busy for them.

3. I would spend more time sharing my faith. Paul told the young pastor Timothy to do the work of an evangelist (2 Timothy 4:5). Those words apply to all pastors today.

4. I would love the community where I lived more. I would try to live more incarnationally. I would prayerfully seek to see how I could serve the community rather than see it as a population pool of prospects for my church.

5. I would lead the church to focus more on the nations. I would lead in helping our church grasp that missions is more than just an annual offering.

6. I would focus on critics less. Most church members have no idea how many criticisms and “suggestions” a pastor gets each week. It can be overwhelming and distracting. Though I would be willing to listen, I would not obsess about every negative comment that was made about me.

7. I would accept the reality that I can’t be omnipresent. So many people and groups want the presence of the pastor. Saying “no” can be difficult, but it can free the pastor to focus on some of the priorities noted above,

For This and the Next Generation

While I can’t reverse the mistakes I’ve made, I can endeavor to move forward positively from this day on. Though my mistakes were made when I was a pastor, many of the lessons still apply to me today. And I hope that my mistakes can be a teaching tool for this and the next generation of pastors and church staff.

This life is so incredibly brief. I am amazed and sorrowful to recall how many times I haven’t been the steward of my life that I should be. But this is a new day. It is the day that the Lord has made. I have a fresh start.

In His power, I might just get it right this time.